Through an integration of humor, honesty, our goals are to…

Promote healthy relationships.
Encourage SAFE monogamous partnership and/or sex.
Keep it real – cause it ain’t always peaches and cream.
Keep it fun – because laughter goes a long way.
Provide practical, working, real life advice.

“This forum was inspired by the many questions, e-mails, and messages we receive about sexuality, sex, and relationships. We realize that we serve to be an example for all couples and we are willing to talk candidly and honestly about our experiences and what it takes to get thus far.

We offer real world applicable experience and practical advice from being in a 18 year relationship – still a work in progress… as are all relationships.”


In 2006 while touring the U.S. and Europe promoting the TV series, The DL Chronicles, filmmakers Quincy LeNear and Deondray Gossett, repeatedly found that the Q&A sessions would eventually turn into questions about their 11 year relationship.

“It seemed we could not escape the public’s curiosity about our love life and how we personally made it last. Over time we naturally found ourselves being asked to speak about long-term gay relationships on panels and in seminars.”

Recognizing that there was a desire and a need in the LGBTQ community for relationship advice, in 2007 they created The Outside of Relationships web video/internet radio talk show and website for relationship advice with a focus of Gay & Bi-sexual men of color. In 2008 they began publishing their relationship advice as a column in The Daily Voice blog. Both the Outside of Relationships and the Daily Voice blog ended after a few short years, but the couple continued to coach and lend advice to individuals through social media, panels, and personal inquiries.

Meet the Gossfields was a natural evolution from the Outside of Relationships after the couple made history becoming legally married after 18 years on the 56th Grammy Annual Awards, Jan 26th 2014, in front of 28 million viewers in the U.S. alone. Known as the Same Love Wedding, the star studded ceremony of 33 straight, interracial, and LGBT couples was officiated by Queen Latifah, with performances by Mackelmore, Ryan Lewis, Mary Lambert, and special guest Madonna.

It became one of the biggest moments in TV and Grammy history.

Quincy LeNear and Deondray Gossett became Mr. & Mr. Gossfield and have been featured and made appearances in numerous media outlets, known as the Grammy couple. The couple’s life and relationship was once again the interest of the world abroad.

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“Our fans, supporters, and millions of new admirers of all genders and sexual orientations demanded to know the secret… how do you make it work? So here we go again – with rings.”

The Gossfields
Quincy LeNear Gossfield and Deondray Gossfield are the GLAAD award winning filmmakers and the creators of the DL Chronicles TV series on HERE TV. In addition to their work in film and TV, they both have degrees and educational backgrounds in Psychology in the areas of Behavioral Therapy and Multicultural Counseling.

Quincy LeNear and Deondray Gossett are the creators of the award-winning cable anthology series, THE DL CHRONICLES, a series about men of color who lead double lives, which premiered internationally on the cable network Here! TV in 2007.  A recipient of the 2008 GLAAD Media Award for Outstanding Television Anthology, it earned the added distinction of being the first African American television series to be nominated and to win the coveted award.

The DL Chronicles is now used internationally in notable universities such as The University of Berlin, Germany, in Psychology courses, and is published in one of the leading academic text books in the U.S. (Our Sexuality by Cengage Learning). The DL Chronicles grew to become an international cult hit, topping the DVD charts in France, the United States, and Canada. It is now lauded and considered an important historic contribution to LGBT media.

The creative team of LeNear and Gossett have also developed/produced TV series such as The Zane Chronicles (HBO/Cinemax), Face Off (Syfy), Family Dance Off (ABC), Randy Jackson’s America’s Best Dance Crew (MTV), The Sing Off (NBC), Make Your Mark Shake It Up Dance Off (The Disney Channel), and The Laugh Factor (The CW).

The couple is currently in development on numerous TV projects and a feature film slated production for Fall 2014.


  •  In 2006 LeNear was profiled and named by Advocate Magazine as “Someone to Watch”.
  • Recognized by The California State Assembly in 2007 for their outstanding contribution to the State of California and the LGBT Community.
  • Esteemed guest and speakers at the 2007 Equality Forum in Philadelphia.
  • Panelists at the 2008 Academy of Television Arts & Science’s “LGBT: Above and Below the Line in Prime”, the Academy’s first “state of the union” review and celebration of LGBT contributions to television with Billy Crystal, Robert Greenblatt, and Bruce Vilanch.
  • Guest and speakers at the 2008 & 2009 UK International LGBT Film Festival at the British Film Institute in London, England.
  •  Co-creators and directors of the Kaiser Family Foundation’s “Greater Than AIDS” campaign; one of the most powerful and effective AIDS PSA awareness campaigns ever done focusing on the HIV/AIDS epidemic in the African American community
  • Wrote, directed and produced the star-studded, 2008, 2009, and 2010, HEROES IN THE STRUGGLE Awards Show at the Roy Disney Concert Hall, for the Black AIDS Institute & the Magic Johnson Foundation.
  • Mentors for Outfest Film Festival’s mentorship program, Outset, which fosters young LGBTQ filmmakers in their quests to become professionals.
  • Have been featured on the covers and in the pages of publications such as LIFE, the Advocate, OUT, Clik mag, LA Times, USA Today, Swerv, UneQ, Mused Mag and others.

Quincy LeNear Gossfield


Quincy is a native of Chicago, IL and is a multi-talented artiste who has enjoyed a diverse career as an actor, visual artist, cartoonist, writer, photographer, and filmmaker.

He was brought to the attention of the American public as a premiere visual artist after having his cartoon inspired works grace the homes of many celebrities and the sets of various television series, followed by a featured segment on HGTV’s The Carol Duvall Show. A clothing line in 2003, The Yoga Babies, featuring his illustrations, created a national craze, appearing in USA Today and on shows Good Day LA, Good Day Live, and Inside Edition.

Quincy holds a B.A. from California State University, Northridge, in Psychology with an emphasis on counseling and multiculturalism and is a former licensed theologian with an emphasis on comparative religions and Judeo-Christianity.

He has also worked as a SAG actor for over 12 years in television, film, stage, and voice-over.

He continues to extend his passions and talent beyond the entertainment industry to assist people in need by appearing and speaking across the globe for survivors of sexual child abuse, Gay rights and equality, HIV/AIDS education, and through mentoring.

Deondray Gossfield


Deondray is a Los Angeles native who began his career as a classically trained and award-winning actor.  His credits include ROSWELL, THE PARENTHOOD, THE HUGHLEYS, MTV’s UNDRESSED and THE NATHAN LANE SHOW.  He also appeared in the film and on the soundtrack of the hit musical SISTER ACT 2 with Whoopi Goldberg.  Gossett has a long list of national and international commercial credits.

In 2000 Gossett formed D.E.G Media, a film and video editing company and worked as an associate producer with South Street Studios.  D.E.G Media produced media and industrial presentations for clients including Nick Cannon Presents, Janet Jackson, The Mayhem Project, Rhinehardt Publishing, Avitone Music, and Magic Johnson Industries.  He also co-produced The 1999 Pan African Film Festival with South Street Studios.

Gossett earned his degree in Psychology in 2004 alongside partner LeNear.  He has worked as a therapist for the world’s leading center for Autism and related disorders.

Prior to their success with THE DL CHRONICLES, Deondray penned the couple’s first film, Had U, which won Best Experimental Short Film at the Showtime Alternative Digital Film Festival in 2001 and launched their careers behind the camera.

Went from cheap wine to fine spirits. #blacklove… via @thegossfields