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How Do We Sustain Gay Relationships?

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DEAR Q&D

How Do We Sustain Gay Relationships?

Q: First and foremost, I believe that we, as Gay individuals, haven’t had the time to nurture our relationships the way straights have.  We haven’t even had the opportunity to nurture who we are as same sex loving people.  The straight community has certainly had an unfair advantage, but we must now begin to address the social disparities and emotional baggage we have developed as a result of our sexuality being oppressed and suppressed before we can enter into a healthy union and maintain it.  We have to begin to accept ourselves and love ourselves as Gay men first. There’s so much suppression, self-hate, and self-condemnation that we act out in unhealthy ways that aren’t always conducive to our emotional health let alone a relationship.

We are not ones to sit on a pedestal as “greater than thou”.  However, we speak from personal experience.  We have been fortunate to have worked through many of our changes while in the relationship.  Relationships are not for everybody but for those who desire them, anything worth having is worth fighting for.

D: Well said, baby.  (Q smiles) 

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